Friends, do we really need them?
Tuesday, June 28, 2005
I have been in France for 6 years. I ve met a lot, some true ,some have hidden agendas, some are snakes. But I keep those who are for me and run away from those who are not.And I never regret losing them. There are still some coming. And going ! LOL
At times I asked my self, do I really need one? Or two? Or more?
What is really a friend ba?
In Monaco and France I dont have much. I got fed up with them. Why?
They would pour out their personal problems to me, then I would tell them what to do, they accused me of minding their own affairs. Olaaaahh!
Or they dont like me because I turned them down for asking loans! LOL. Their friendship with me is based on money... (eyes rolling)Ano, bulsa ko, bulsa nila? Tama ba sila?
(If it is like that I buzzed off, ciao, au revoir, paalam, have a nice day, sayonara.)
Prefer to go to my pc, annoy a bit some asawa posters,ha ha ha laugh about the butler's nothings, talk to kids in Phils,have a nice meal, go to bed ,have a book,sleep and wake up the next day to go to work, life is simplier.
(I find it,that the more friends you have,the more trouble you get into with them.)
I got a few as my friends,thats enough. I dont need to be surrounded with silly ones.LOL
With the friends I got, they come and go.(meng in japan, three years, atty jeanie, since 2003,Leah in antipolo, (huh )15 years na!, french lady Diane, 5years,) We all still communicating one another from time to time.
I dont hold much of them because I respect their privacy. With Pinay friend, we are not with each others' neck everyday. We have that mutual understanding. If she is free, she calls, if I am free, I call. If we cant meet for some reasons, we dont fight over it. After a week or (a month sometimes he he )we have coffee/tea or lunch again and have a good laugh. We try to annoy one another at times , or sometimes encourage one another too.If she wants to vent, she knows my phone number.
"There exists friends disposed to break one another to pieces, but there exists also friends sticking closer than a brother "
And you? Do you have/keep many friends? How is that?
At times I asked my self, do I really need one? Or two? Or more?
What is really a friend ba?
In Monaco and France I dont have much. I got fed up with them. Why?
They would pour out their personal problems to me, then I would tell them what to do, they accused me of minding their own affairs. Olaaaahh!
Or they dont like me because I turned them down for asking loans! LOL. Their friendship with me is based on money... (eyes rolling)Ano, bulsa ko, bulsa nila? Tama ba sila?
(If it is like that I buzzed off, ciao, au revoir, paalam, have a nice day, sayonara.)
Prefer to go to my pc, annoy a bit some asawa posters,ha ha ha laugh about the butler's nothings, talk to kids in Phils,have a nice meal, go to bed ,have a book,sleep and wake up the next day to go to work, life is simplier.
(I find it,that the more friends you have,the more trouble you get into with them.)
I got a few as my friends,thats enough. I dont need to be surrounded with silly ones.LOL
With the friends I got, they come and go.(meng in japan, three years, atty jeanie, since 2003,Leah in antipolo, (huh )15 years na!, french lady Diane, 5years,) We all still communicating one another from time to time.
I dont hold much of them because I respect their privacy. With Pinay friend, we are not with each others' neck everyday. We have that mutual understanding. If she is free, she calls, if I am free, I call. If we cant meet for some reasons, we dont fight over it. After a week or (a month sometimes he he )we have coffee/tea or lunch again and have a good laugh. We try to annoy one another at times , or sometimes encourage one another too.If she wants to vent, she knows my phone number.
"There exists friends disposed to break one another to pieces, but there exists also friends sticking closer than a brother "
And you? Do you have/keep many friends? How is that?
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hay! well maybe casual friend yes. but not that close or whatever. kasi minsan sila lang yong magput down sa iyo. or simulan nang mga away or tsismis. i have one close and best friend which is my hubby. who will understand me and trust me.
yes we do need friends and PC is not my answer. I need human contact as much as I want to be alone to gather my thoughts.
we also have the right to choose our friends and once we do have that kind of people such friendship can be rewarding...
I do have close friends from the yachting industry, from UK, i have met all people from walks of life and I kept in touch with them.
You need to nurture this friendship to make it bloom and to do this you have at least few things in common....
Oh I still write and talk to my old friends way back kindergarten!!
we also have the right to choose our friends and once we do have that kind of people such friendship can be rewarding...
I do have close friends from the yachting industry, from UK, i have met all people from walks of life and I kept in touch with them.
You need to nurture this friendship to make it bloom and to do this you have at least few things in common....
Oh I still write and talk to my old friends way back kindergarten!!
I have very few selected friends, and these selected few i keep in contact. They are my friends since I was in highschool or college (or newfound trusted same wavelength friends). A few days ago I was just on the phone with my old bestfriend in highschool (i am talking about 18 years ago). She's in the UK now. I visited her last year.
But outside of these selected friends, I am not the friendly type, have to admit that. I don't like to people please just so people will like me and be friendly. I don't need the mileage. My self esteem is not built on other people but on myself. And I love my own company. I am not really into barkadas too and I don't like meeting people whom I do not know. I prefer to be on my own than going out with people or casual friends.
My colleagues in Pinas before asked me what I do during weekends. I said, "Just stay inside my flat" (i live alone before in manila). Their reaction: they pitied me! So they start inviting me to go out. I had to explain to them that "I enjoy being alone". In the Philippine culture being alone is negative because everyone there is always surrounded with someone. There is no privacy. Boy was I glad when I arrived in NL that everyone basically wanted their privacy like me, lol!
And Dutchman was asking me one time, "Where is that kitchen full of Filipino food and Filipinas singing and gossiping that I read on the internet?" LOL
I love my space and privacy.
But outside of these selected friends, I am not the friendly type, have to admit that. I don't like to people please just so people will like me and be friendly. I don't need the mileage. My self esteem is not built on other people but on myself. And I love my own company. I am not really into barkadas too and I don't like meeting people whom I do not know. I prefer to be on my own than going out with people or casual friends.
My colleagues in Pinas before asked me what I do during weekends. I said, "Just stay inside my flat" (i live alone before in manila). Their reaction: they pitied me! So they start inviting me to go out. I had to explain to them that "I enjoy being alone". In the Philippine culture being alone is negative because everyone there is always surrounded with someone. There is no privacy. Boy was I glad when I arrived in NL that everyone basically wanted their privacy like me, lol!
And Dutchman was asking me one time, "Where is that kitchen full of Filipino food and Filipinas singing and gossiping that I read on the internet?" LOL
I love my space and privacy.
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Hi!thank you!saya ko ah!isa ako sa mga list of friend mo. about friend, may natira pa ako sa tokyo 2 pa sila at ninang akong mga first baby nila 15 years na kami still going on ang tawagan namin. dito,sa sapporo, ala give-up na ko lagi lang ako naaabuso kasi say ni hubby ko, sobra raw bait ko,tulong ko sobra. better na mag-garden na lang ako at basa ng mga blogs mo saya pa ko.sobra tsismis at inggitera pinay dito kasi very province dito. ty sa post mo sa pinadala ko sa iyo.dream ko someday kita tayo sa pinas. ingat!
Hi!thank you!saya ko ah!isa ako sa mga list of friend mo. about friend, may natira pa ako sa tokyo 2 pa sila at ninang akong mga first baby nila 15 years na kami still going on ang tawagan namin. dito,sa sapporo, ala give-up na ko lagi lang ako naaabuso kasi say ni hubby ko, sobra raw bait ko,tulong ko sobra. better na mag-garden na lang ako at basa ng mga blogs mo saya pa ko.sobra tsismis at inggitera pinay dito kasi very province dito. ty sa post mo sa pinadala ko sa iyo.dream ko someday kita tayo sa pinas. ingat!
"Tell me who are your friends and I tell you who you are".
Another phrase "daw" yan on how discreet one is in choosing friends.
Like Jori, I enjoy my privacy. I like my space too, where you can do what you want, without someone being bothered. Sarap non.
Some cant live without their circle of friends. They like to be in the middle of a lot of people. Me, not.
We dont invite people much at home. Sha and husband is the first time.
(Sorry , Sha, if we ddint acomodate you well when here, I am not the type that cooks for people, I would prefer we sit in a resto and have fun.)
Even sa Pinas, I would bring friends in resto, less cleaning the kitchen and hugasin plato, LOL
Mahabang tsikahan pa, than me in an apron luto luto at home. Bleeehhkk !
Kayo, do you enjoy preparing meals for friends, as Dutchman said with singing and ...?Ha ha ha ! Iba iba nga naman lifestyles eh.
Another phrase "daw" yan on how discreet one is in choosing friends.
Like Jori, I enjoy my privacy. I like my space too, where you can do what you want, without someone being bothered. Sarap non.
Some cant live without their circle of friends. They like to be in the middle of a lot of people. Me, not.
We dont invite people much at home. Sha and husband is the first time.
(Sorry , Sha, if we ddint acomodate you well when here, I am not the type that cooks for people, I would prefer we sit in a resto and have fun.)
Even sa Pinas, I would bring friends in resto, less cleaning the kitchen and hugasin plato, LOL
Mahabang tsikahan pa, than me in an apron luto luto at home. Bleeehhkk !
Kayo, do you enjoy preparing meals for friends, as Dutchman said with singing and ...?Ha ha ha ! Iba iba nga naman lifestyles eh.
hello,
well i have friends since HS and College too. its been more than 25 yrs now. and we almost treat like sisters. but i lost some cos of money too. i do believe n, lalo mong makikilala ang isang tao when money involves na. but i regret those people dahil sa konting halaga, nasisira ang credibility nila. i do want to keep my privacy too. am not an outgoin person, don lang pag may special occasion, pra nman di ako kasawaan ng friends ko. and i only go with people that im comfy with. without lifting my own chair, im the darling of the group. minsan masyado akong mabait kaya madalas naaabuso, but am not stupid, masyado lang malambot ang puso ko, when it comes helping friends, but... once they failed my trust, thats the end of it. kya i keep only few of them, who really are real.
Gob bless, Francesca im ur avid reader. i enjoy ur blogs.
sarah
well i have friends since HS and College too. its been more than 25 yrs now. and we almost treat like sisters. but i lost some cos of money too. i do believe n, lalo mong makikilala ang isang tao when money involves na. but i regret those people dahil sa konting halaga, nasisira ang credibility nila. i do want to keep my privacy too. am not an outgoin person, don lang pag may special occasion, pra nman di ako kasawaan ng friends ko. and i only go with people that im comfy with. without lifting my own chair, im the darling of the group. minsan masyado akong mabait kaya madalas naaabuso, but am not stupid, masyado lang malambot ang puso ko, when it comes helping friends, but... once they failed my trust, thats the end of it. kya i keep only few of them, who really are real.
Gob bless, Francesca im ur avid reader. i enjoy ur blogs.
sarah
I am very friendly and will make friends with anyone but the ones I call "close friends" are few and far in between, lol and I seldom see them either because like me, we reserve our meetings to very special occasions.
Funny enough, I find myself craving for Filipino company since arriving here in the UK. I miss talking in tagalog. I miss Filipino food. I miss karaoke nights. I'm sure it doesn't hurt and will always be fun once in a while.
Funny enough, I find myself craving for Filipino company since arriving here in the UK. I miss talking in tagalog. I miss Filipino food. I miss karaoke nights. I'm sure it doesn't hurt and will always be fun once in a while.
hey dont say those words
we had fun going out..........i didnt excpect the host to cook for me¬!
who would cook with such temp soaring to 35C
we had fun going out..........i didnt excpect the host to cook for me¬!
who would cook with such temp soaring to 35C
I am a very introverted person and I also like to do stuff by myself; I don't go out and seek people to be friends with although I don't put any sort of limits to friendships. I can be friends with anyone who has one common ground with me may it be...work, lifestyle, sports etc. I don't put conditions on who I can "hang-out" with. I can be as flexible as playing with 9 year olds to having conversations with 60 and 80 year olds and be friends with them! I am quite lucky to have friends who never gossiped about me nor backstabbed me nor borrowed any money from me. Never fought with a friend...in my life. In that way, I am very lucky.
loka talaga si lola.... sa totoo lang readers inaaway ni Lola si Pinay.. hahha no hindi po
mabait naman si Pinay kaya nga lang dami problema.... takot si Francesca mag ka wrinkles kaya... everynow and then sila kita kita pero they are open to each other...that what is friendship all about!
mabait naman si Pinay kaya nga lang dami problema.... takot si Francesca mag ka wrinkles kaya... everynow and then sila kita kita pero they are open to each other...that what is friendship all about!
i keep a few...the ones who are friends to its truest sense...even though you don't see each other or talk to each other, you know deep down na walang iwanan sa hirap at ginhawa...
Hey, i just recently discovered your blog. I have to say first that I admire your spunk very much. You seem to be a very independend, business-minded woman who won't let anybody get her down. What a great trait!
As for friends, its good to have them. I have to admit that I don't make friends easily. I'm very picky and selective. Now I have a circle of close friends that I trust and don't think will ever take advantage of me (I hope)!
As for friends, its good to have them. I have to admit that I don't make friends easily. I'm very picky and selective. Now I have a circle of close friends that I trust and don't think will ever take advantage of me (I hope)!
I was with Pinay today. After two weeks, kita kits, mga 30mins coffee sa studio niya. okey naman, I didnt ask whats her problem today, kasi hihirit na naman ng iyak at may tadyak pa sa sahig, kung mag alburuto sa buhay niya.
The at 3pm, I text her if she is free as I am free. She said in 30mins. I went to Carrefour grocery. 430 pm, no Pinay. I took a train to Nice. When in Nice, she asked me where I am, as she is in the grocery. I said I am in Nice, hahaha.
I remind her, that if no call, no come, so mutual understanding, we call off the date and plan another day.
We are laughing together for such an arrangement, she said, Saturday, seh will have dinner with me, as I told her, Sha , Mark Michel and I went to Nice to have mussels and frites, non stop in a resto, and she likes to try it.
On the whole, friendship is like holding a bird in the hand. Let it free, if it comes back it is yours, if not, well, try others.
The at 3pm, I text her if she is free as I am free. She said in 30mins. I went to Carrefour grocery. 430 pm, no Pinay. I took a train to Nice. When in Nice, she asked me where I am, as she is in the grocery. I said I am in Nice, hahaha.
I remind her, that if no call, no come, so mutual understanding, we call off the date and plan another day.
We are laughing together for such an arrangement, she said, Saturday, seh will have dinner with me, as I told her, Sha , Mark Michel and I went to Nice to have mussels and frites, non stop in a resto, and she likes to try it.
On the whole, friendship is like holding a bird in the hand. Let it free, if it comes back it is yours, if not, well, try others.
i have to admit, i have very few 'friends', im quite selective in that point, my highschool friends and some college friends are the ones i cherish the most, i could stay hours and hours with them just by talking about anything.
some acquaintances asked for pasalubongs when i bid goodbye because im leaving for good (for france), whereas my true friends wished me goodluck and asked me to take care of myself and not to forget to communicate. nakakataba ng puso di ba.
i love to cook for my friends, even when i was in pinas, that's our way of sharing our good times together, well, actually, everybody participates so that was kind of fun.
here in france, sabi naman sayo, mag isa ko lang dito waaaah! but honestly, im not looking for one, i hate conflicts and i dont find the need, i love my privacy and frenchguy keeps me company, hangkkolit nga e. i have some acquaintances tho, around france, we communicate by email, but electricity doesnt just pass like that..ok lang!
well, blogging is my friend siguro, coz i could express my ideas freely, and i get to meet (virtually) some interesting people..and why not meet them personally in the future...see yah sa nice one of these days, tea in a resto-terrace lang masaya na ko hehe..
some acquaintances asked for pasalubongs when i bid goodbye because im leaving for good (for france), whereas my true friends wished me goodluck and asked me to take care of myself and not to forget to communicate. nakakataba ng puso di ba.
i love to cook for my friends, even when i was in pinas, that's our way of sharing our good times together, well, actually, everybody participates so that was kind of fun.
here in france, sabi naman sayo, mag isa ko lang dito waaaah! but honestly, im not looking for one, i hate conflicts and i dont find the need, i love my privacy and frenchguy keeps me company, hangkkolit nga e. i have some acquaintances tho, around france, we communicate by email, but electricity doesnt just pass like that..ok lang!
well, blogging is my friend siguro, coz i could express my ideas freely, and i get to meet (virtually) some interesting people..and why not meet them personally in the future...see yah sa nice one of these days, tea in a resto-terrace lang masaya na ko hehe..
It's good to have real friends. Yung bang through good times and bad times nandoon sila.
Phony friends, life is better without them. Pag-good time lang sila nandiyan.
Phony friends, life is better without them. Pag-good time lang sila nandiyan.
In everywhere, I brand some friends like pigeons.
They come when they get something, when not, you never see them.
Sino may mga friends na pigeons?
Ako marami na, I dont see them anymore, good enough. LOL
Concentrate sa blogger friends ang lola... safer.
They come when they get something, when not, you never see them.
Sino may mga friends na pigeons?
Ako marami na, I dont see them anymore, good enough. LOL
Concentrate sa blogger friends ang lola... safer.
Mostly sa mga pigeon friends ko of long time ago were the Monaco Pinays.
When Sha was in Monaco, she was surprised why I am not with any Pinay in Monaco and Nice, when she spotted some of them in Carrefour and public places.
I told her, I dont mingle with them anymore.
I cant say to her that time they are part of my "pigeon friends" some still owes me money,huhu, not much, but still money X 65 pesos.LOL
Kaya no pansin ko na sila, concentrate na lang ng bahay work bahay.Di ba?
When Sha was in Monaco, she was surprised why I am not with any Pinay in Monaco and Nice, when she spotted some of them in Carrefour and public places.
I told her, I dont mingle with them anymore.
I cant say to her that time they are part of my "pigeon friends" some still owes me money,huhu, not much, but still money X 65 pesos.LOL
Kaya no pansin ko na sila, concentrate na lang ng bahay work bahay.Di ba?